Restoring Honor: Military Bans and LGBT Vets

Well, that didn’t take very long! Only eight short years after the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell (DADT) the honor of queer service members, particularly that of our transgender brothers and sisters, has been perversely maligned by Trump’s asinine transgender military ban. Those of us who are not in the military (myself included) can…

Organs, tissues, and eyes? Oh my!

Before we begin, I want to insert a brief disclaimer: If you are at all interested in deceased donation please do not rule yourself out as a donor based on this article. My aim is to present the hidden fine print of donation as it relates to the LGBT+ community (hopefully in an entertaining manner)…

Estates and Cohabitation

Millennials – we’re so changeable! I don’t know if you subscribe to Tinfoil Hat Daily, but apparently, over brunches of gourmet, French press covfefe and avocado toast, our generation has been orchestrating a wanton serial slaughter of once inestimably precious American industry. Chain restaurants, golf, mayonnaise, and diamond rings! Yes, to hear mainstream media tell…

Sidenote: the Operating Thetan of body custody

Sidenote is a collection of real-life events that I have personally experienced or received as second-hand accounts from colleagues. They address different scenarios that are relevant to the blog and explore various points of funeral law. Think of them as the answers to short essay exam questions. Naturally, any identifying information has been removed. About…

Estate Planning 101

While not directly related to funeral arrangements and/or preserving one’s identity, each legal document dictating what happens immediately before and after your passing is a piece of the puzzle creating the final picture of your estate. Now, before you start thinking to yourself about how you don’t have speedboats, pony stables, or early 2000’s rap…

What’s a health care proxy and why do I need one?

A health care proxy (aka durable power of attorney for health care, or Advanced Directive for Health Care; Health care proxies, used in combination with living wills, are referred to as “Advanced Directives.”) is a document appointing someone to make medical decisions on your behalf, in the event that you become incapacitated. For example, here…

2 ways to preserve your autonomy

Human life is complicated, and that makes human death tortuous. Toss in the spectrum gender and sexuality, and you’ve created a uniquely Byzantine intrigue where, more often than not, the observation of one’s wishes are a matter of courtesy rather than law. Even if all surviving parties are amicable, confusion and heartache can still be…

I erased someone’s identity

Theoretically, I knew something like this could happen. Indeed, ask any funeral director and they will have a ready arsenal of bizarre anecdotes about “that one family” who demanded some truly out of pocket shit in the name of grief. Unfortunately, as you probably guessed, this is also one of those stories. One evening at…